On Monday night, September 17, I was fixing dinner upstairs when I heard Clara start screaming. I ran downstairs and she was laying beneath her little trampoline (where she'd tumbled over the handle bar), crying in pain. Our little girl can be a bit of a drama queen (the same response to stepping on her toe as you might expect from severing a limb) ;). But she always gets over her pain and moves on. This time was a little different. To start, her cry was different. And then it took her a long time to stop crying. So I had a bad feeling about it from the beginning.
Jonathan got home soon after the accident and we ate dinner and played with her (basically tried to distract her) until bed time. She kept complaining about her arm, but she fell asleep in her bed just fine, so we thought it was the end of it.
A few hours later she woke up crying and so we gave her medicine - but she was quite upset. Jonathan basically slept with her on the couch the remainder of the night.
In the morning she was still complaining, so after calling Jonathan and work, we decided to head to the doctor. Jono was able to join me and we took the kids together - which was a huge blessing. "Everything" on her arm hurt, but Clara mostly pointed to her elbow as the most painful spot. So we got an X-ray, anticipating that she may have broken her arm. It came back completely normal.
Since the plan of attack (in terms of healing) is immobilize if broken & start moving if not, we tried to encourage Clara to use her arm right away.
We tried taking her to the park, getting her to ride her bike, disguised fun things she had to do with both arms (etc) in an attempt to get her to use both arms functionally. For days she was not herself. I even called the doctor back, asking what is "normal" for this kind of thing. What I got in response was basically "the X-ray came back normal - drug her for a week and then see (in a very patronizing tone)". I was determined not to be the worrisome mom, so I just followed suit.
Sure, she got a little bit better. She didn't wake crying at night after a few days. She started to lift her arm higher and moved it with more range of motion. But then there was the changing regime (we had to put on her clothes a very specific way to avoid pain), and the getting-into-car plan of attack (which was painfully slow), and the holding hands with only her right arm at all times. In hindsight, I should've known better.
The first round...
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| Cuddling with daddy at the doctor |
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| Waiting for her X-ray |
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| Passed out on the couch |
Today we went to the doctor for Caleb. He'd had a few rough nights of sleep and he awoke from his morning nap with a pretty high fever and wouldn't stop crying. In the hallway of the doctors' office, Clara tripped and fell on her injured arm. And she FELL APART. She'd fallen on it a time or two (and been pulled/squeezed accidentally) and so I'd seen the response before. She was in a lot of pain.
Picture me, pushing a stroller with a screaming infant while trying to carry a screaming Clara in my arms. It was epic.
When we made it down the hall to the office, everyone in the building could hear us coming. And it was precisely this reason that caused the doctor to inquire about Clara's arm (after diagnosing Caleb with an ear infection). When I described her persistent symptoms a whole two weeks after the injury, the doctor ordered a new X-ray - this time of the shoulder.
And what do you know? She broke her humorous. A mere inch or so above where her last X-ray was taken.
When I heard the news I was sick to my stomach. Sick because I had been pushing her to use her arm. And because I was starting to get annoyed when she said it hurt (I thought she was just trying to get more yummy medicine, which is as good as candy to our obviously sweet-deprived child). And sick because I let a doctor convince me that my daughter was fine when I knew that she wasn't.
Thank goodness she isn't at all traumatized. Here I am getting all teary about the fact that it's been broken all this time and to her, the real injury happened two weeks ago. What's the big deal about today? Now she just gets to wear a peanuts sling (I was trying to teach her the names of all the characters earlier today ;)) for a few weeks.
And this mama has learned her lesson. I will certainly do my best to refrain from being an over-the-top worrying freak. But I will trust my gut and listen to my daughter. Turns out she's tougher than I thought.